It is okay to set the goals, but know clearly what are the system you are going to follow and implement that is aligned to your goals.
Why is it so hard to form good habits? Why is it so difficult to make consistent change? How can we have the best intentions to become better, and yet still see so little progress? And most importantly, is there anything we can do about it?
Goals are not your habits!
Are your goals- the way you want our bodies to look and the good health you want to enjoy, the respect you want to receive from your peers and the important work you want to create, the relationships you want with your family and friends and the love you want to share.
If you don’t have these small goals and which are more fulfilling in life, then you go ahead and define a big goal(Health wise- lose 40kilos in one year, Earn X amount to gain respect, Have the perfect partner with awesome kids, Work to change the world). These goals are very good and common but there are lot of challenges with it. The typical approach is you jump start with a great motivation to fail quickly and wish you had more willpower as your new dream or habits drowns.
The new approach is to slow down, take one day at a time. Find out what you enjoy as a process. Focus on a single, comfortable change for one day at a time. Next day, repeat only one thing, and that process is really huge in building habits.
So Focus should be on Lifestyle, Not Life–Changing Too often we get obsessed with making life–changing transformations. Losing 40kgs would be life–changing, drinking 8 glasses of water per day is a new type of lifestyle. Running a marathon would be life–changing, walking 30 minutes every day is a new type of lifestyle. Earning that X amount would be life–changing, working an extra 5 hours per week on things you love is a new type of lifestyle. Have a dream partner and kids of a movie frame would be life-changing, but being kinder to a stranger now and then is a new type of life style. It is okay to dream big, but start with the small life style changes. If you’re serious about doing things better than you are now — then start small. You can imagine all your existing habits, good or bad, you will find out that they are so small and so automatic that you don't even think about it. So to make new and good habits which you know for sure good for you is to make tiny changes that our brain could quickly learn and automatically repeat. Those should be enjoyable, explorable and benificial. What if you drop all those big goals which drains you, frustrates you and demotivates you or you can only achieve them when you have better resources, better time, better luck..etc in the near but not known future…..but instead as tiny, as small, as easy behaviors that are repeated and cultivated which makes your dream a reality, you without realizing how big you have achieved.
Goals are not your habits!
Are your goals- the way you want our bodies to look and the good health you want to enjoy, the respect you want to receive from your peers and the important work you want to create, the relationships you want with your family and friends and the love you want to share.
If you don’t have these small goals and which are more fulfilling in life, then you go ahead and define a big goal(Health wise- lose 40kilos in one year, Earn X amount to gain respect, Have the perfect partner with awesome kids, Work to change the world). These goals are very good and common but there are lot of challenges with it. The typical approach is you jump start with a great motivation to fail quickly and wish you had more willpower as your new dream or habits drowns.
The new approach is to slow down, take one day at a time. Find out what you enjoy as a process. Focus on a single, comfortable change for one day at a time. Next day, repeat only one thing, and that process is really huge in building habits.
So Focus should be on Lifestyle, Not Life–Changing Too often we get obsessed with making life–changing transformations. Losing 40kgs would be life–changing, drinking 8 glasses of water per day is a new type of lifestyle. Running a marathon would be life–changing, walking 30 minutes every day is a new type of lifestyle. Earning that X amount would be life–changing, working an extra 5 hours per week on things you love is a new type of lifestyle. Have a dream partner and kids of a movie frame would be life-changing, but being kinder to a stranger now and then is a new type of life style. It is okay to dream big, but start with the small life style changes. If you’re serious about doing things better than you are now — then start small. You can imagine all your existing habits, good or bad, you will find out that they are so small and so automatic that you don't even think about it. So to make new and good habits which you know for sure good for you is to make tiny changes that our brain could quickly learn and automatically repeat. Those should be enjoyable, explorable and benificial. What if you drop all those big goals which drains you, frustrates you and demotivates you or you can only achieve them when you have better resources, better time, better luck..etc in the near but not known future…..but instead as tiny, as small, as easy behaviors that are repeated and cultivated which makes your dream a reality, you without realizing how big you have achieved.
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